Because men look at the ‘big picture’ that is life and women look at the ‘man/relationship’.
Because men can enjoy all of the spices of life– while having a relationship is just an added bonus–not their be all!
Even though they may care about woman, even love their woman immensely, they are still looking OUTSIDE of the relationship. They DON’T care what woman think.
They still have hobbies.
They still approve of themselves whether the woman approves, or not. They still see the BIG PICTURE.
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Women tend to focus on every little emotional inner detail of the relationship, i.e.,
- Do I look okay?”
- “Is my hair all right?”
- “Should I have sex?”
- “Am I performing well?”
- “Did that sound stupid?”
- “Is the food just perfect?”
- “How does the laundry smell?”
- “Is the house clean enough for him?”
- “Have I packed him a good lunch?”
- “Will he find me sexy in this negligee?”
- “Am I coming on too strong, weak, over-confident, meek, butchy, bitchy, demure?”
- “How does my makeup look?”
- “Will he spend time with ME tonight?”
- “I like his smile” “He is so cute”
- “He is so intelligent”
- “He is so self-assured”
- “He is so strong”
- “He is so this”
- “He is so that”
and…
….all the time they are completely oblivious to their surroundings…they get so wrapped up in the relationship that they forget about the other spices of life.
They wrap everything up in their men and their relationships.
Thus leaving the man the upper hand. He is now in a position to breakup with her and not feel like his world has ended, because he never DID make her his whole world.
For her, if they were to breakup, her world has INDEED ended. For she has (subconsciously) made HIM her WORLD.
But the men have the other spices of life to keep them happy…
- Sports,
- Friends,
- Pastimes, Hobbies,
- Music,
- Partying,
- Bowling,
- Golfing,
- Fishing,
- Working-out,
- Career, etc.
Hmmmm, scary thought. Are women that without a personality, without an identity of their own that they JUST CRUMBLE and fall apart when their “World” (relationship) ends?
Just a thought to ponder……